It’s All Good
What’s one of the hardest things in life we have to do? Saying good-bye to someone we love tops many lists. And what’s one of the hardest things we have to do after we have done that? Say good-bye to the things they wore, loved, and cherished in this life. It seems so wrong and so disrespectful. Shouldn’t we just hold onto everything they loved so that we can somehow hold onto them? That’s a tough question…
I remember the day I was totally distraught after our son had gone Home to Heaven. I was literally on the floor, sobbing, when it seemed God gently whispered to me, “Go into Phil’s room and clean out his dresser.” What?!! Could there be a worse time to do something like that? But, God knew best. He knew I was already at such a low point in my grief that nothing could really make it any worse. I obliged God’s request, got some bags, and started in…drawer by painful drawer until I was finished. I then placed the bags on the front porch to be picked up the following morning, thankful that I would be at work and not home watching that part of Phil leave me forever. It is a moment in time I will never forget, but will always be grateful for. It had to be done…and I knew I was the one who needed to do it. God helped me make it through.
God shows up in our greatest needs, in our greatest pain, and in our saying “good-bye,” as He did for my friend, Lynn, recently. Lynn had taken a trip to San Diego to visit her children and grandchildren, and arrived home to find her husband, Larry, in the backyard. Suddenly, Larry heard the sound of an airplane overhead, and he said, “That’s Brian’s plane.” Brian was Larry’s brother, who recently lost his battle with cancer. Brian had a prized airplane that meant the world to him. A biplane, beautiful cream in color, and lovingly cared for. It was the last of what the family needed to sell that once belonged to Brian. It wasn’t an easy sell, but the day had come, and seemingly gone, and my friend Lynn was sad to have missed one last chance to see Brian’s plane. It was her understanding that the plane had already been picked up by the buyer.
If Lynn had arrived home from San Diego five minutes earlier or later, she would not have been there with Larry in the backyard…he may have told her about Brian’s plane having just flown over, and her heart would have yearned to have been there to see it. But God, in all His goodness, knew what it meant for Lynn to see the plane one last time. It turns out the person who bought the plane is from Colorado. His trip to pick it up in California was delayed a few days because of weather. He needed clear skies to fly it home.
As Larry and Lynn stood under those clear skies watching it fly over, they remembered the joy it brought to Brian, and the joy Brian brought to them. Together they watched it until it was lost in the distance…
Lynn’s heart was full in that moment as the thought came, “It’s all good. There goes Brian.” It seemed God was gently whispering to her, “I don’t want you to worry about Brian.”
We often hope for that one last glimpse of what’s been lost. When Searching And Noticing the Divine, sometimes we are given just that by our wonderful God.
Whatever is good and perfect comes to us from God above…
James 1:17a (NLT)